Bye Bye Smokey Treats
I am quitting smoking, again. I quit a few years ago for a considerable period of time and then went through a rough patch and started up again. I was so ashamed of myself that for a long time I was a secret smoker. By that I mean that only a small handful of people knew I smoked. I had a smoking jacket, hat and gloves to keep anyone from smelling cigarettes on me. I had breath mints and body spray. I put off getting rid of my death trap of a car because no one wanted to ride in it, and that kept them from smelling the smoke. Once I finally got a new car I would leave my windows cracked even when snow or rain was expected, so that my car could air out. I would come up with a plethora of excuses to sneak off and have a cigarette. The worst part was that I lied to my boyfriend who is now my husband for years about my smoking habit. Eventually it felt like my whole life revolved around this one big lie.
Finally I came clean, and not because I got caught but because I couldn’t take it anymore. If he came home early I would be grumpy because I was planning on having another cigarette. If he wanted to come with me to visit my parents I was grumpy because I was planning on smoking on the way there. Also it is really hard to feel good about yourself when your pants are on fire all the time! It’s not as if I go around lying as a way of life, but he had made it clear that he never wanted to be with a smoker and I didn’t want to lose him. I planned to just quit at some point without him ever knowing, but eventually I realized that there was no way I would be able to do it without his support. I needed him to support me and I needed him to know the truth.
He was not pleased, in fact he was hurt and disappointed and felt betrayed. Eventually he forgave me and even though I had proved myself unworthy of his trust, he believed me when I said that I didn’t want to be a smoker forever. And even more incredibly he gave me space and time to figure out how to quit on my own terms and for my own reasons.
Six months passed and after trying to “cut down” and pretty much failing, I decided I was ready to be done for good and went cold turkey. My last day as a smoker was April 21st 2015.
I went cold turkey without the aid of any kind of patch or gum or pill, but I did have a plan. I know the main symptoms and challenges of quitting because I’ve done it before so I came up with ways to deal with each one of these things.
The first and most important step was to work out. I’ve mentioned in other posts that my husband is kind of a fitness fanatic, so he was more than willing to go with me to the gym five days a week and be my personal trainer. Working out helped me deal with several quitting smoking pitfalls. The biggest obstacle of all for me is that when I quit smoking I get sad, really sad, like “is life worth living without cigarettes?” level sad. You know what helps regulate your mood? Working out does. One hurdle overcome, only a few more to go. A lot of people gain weight when they quit smoking because they start snacking to replace the cigarettes. You know a good way to not gain weight? Working out. And instead of avoiding my husband so I could smoke, I now had an activity that I couldn’t be nearly as successful at without him.
The next thing I used to help replace cigarettes was treating my body better. I was the type of person that would choose to smoke three cigarettes on my lunch break and skip eating entirely. I never drank water. I often skipped breakfast and I never ate lunch. So I pretty much fasted all day and then was starving and angry when I got home. I snapped at everybody and had no energy to make healthy food. All I wanted to eat were things like McDonalds and pizza, chips and cookies. Apparently, it’s really not good for you to not eat or drink water all day and then load up on thousands of calories in fried food and soda right before you go to bed. When I quit smoking I pretty much stopped drinking soda and started drinking a lot of water. Having a sports bottle of water in the car helped me replace the oral aspect of smoking and kept me hydrated. I also keep vitamin C drops in my car so that if I get a really bad craving I can pop one of those in. To replace smoking on breaks I started munching on fruits, nuts, and vegetables, which helps me not crave the smokes and insures I’m eating regularly all day.
Lastly I changed my attitude towards smoking. With all the other changes I was making I realized I didn’t really have time to smoke. I have a lot on my plate right now. I have a family to take care of, I work out five days a week, I work forty or more hours a week and I’m starting a business and blogging to boot. Ironically it was way more stressful to find time to smoke than it was to just quit smoking. And in a way because I lied about it for so long I know what my choices are going forward. I can start smoking again and undo all my hard work as well as disappointing the person who believed in me and reinforcing in his mind that I am untrustworthy. I can do all that and lie about it which I’ve learned is the worst thing ever. Or I can continue in the path I’m on. Pretty easy choice really.
It’s amazing the way your habits and health are so intertwined that once you make one good change it’s easier to keep making positive changes, until one day you wake up and you are finally acting like the person you want to be!
I don’t underestimate my addiction. I’ve done that before and ended up a smoker again. I know that the fight is not over and that every day I will have to choose to not smoke, even when life gets hard and I really want to. I’ll keep you all appraised of my progress and keep an eye out for my series of posts “The Thing About Quitting Smoking Is….” where I talk about some of the things non-smokers don’t really understand about smoking and the process of quitting.
I know that some, if not all, of what I’ve shared here and will share in this series of posts, does not make me look like a great person, but I wanted to tell people these things because I think it’s important to hear them. It’s important for smokers because to quit they need to understand that it is possible and they are not alone. And for non-smokers because if they want to help the people in their life to not smoke or to quit smoking they need to understand why people smoke and why they stop.
So wish me luck and stay tuned!